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Serving a Long Distance Master/Dom

Posted on: July 8, 2008

When we enter this life, or indeed move on from One Dom/Master or sub/slave to another when circumstances dictate, the ideal thing in this world is to have a relationship with One who is close, but human nature being what it is does not always work that way and if the One you desire and yearn to serve is a distance away then what?
The main hope of all involved is to actually meet and take this relationship further, the need to serve and the
desire to serve that particular person is always present and distance becomes irrelevant,

Now questions remain and these questions are never easy to ask or indeed answer. If the Master has multiply slaves, and one is closer than the other, do the rules become different for them both? If one is allowed to play (And by play kitten means have sex with someone else as the Master thinks they have been behaving) yet the other is not, then why the difference? Is this because of the distances involved? A sub/slave, in kittens mind, only engages in play when her Dom/Master is present or with people her Dom/Master trusts to ensure her well being at all times, mindless play because they have been ‘ good’ is something kitten does not believe in.

If one sub/slave is banned from something that her Master desires, for example wearing underwear and the others are not, then why? Again is this because that particular slave’s ability to serve is lessened as the distance increases? If some slaves are allowed to speak to their Master in a certain way and others not, why? Is this because the ability to ‘punish’ one and not the other is harder? If one sub/slave is punished for something and the other does the same, why the differences in the way they are treated? Why does a Master ask questions and tasks of one and not another?

Another thing to consider is are the feelings of the sub/slave nearer to their Dom/Master more important than those of ones further away ? And if when the meet takes place, will all the differences be forgotten and all treated within reason the same or will the same rules apply for the same subs/slaves and if that is the case then how confusing will that be when some allowed to do or act in certain ways and others not ?

While we know all subs/slaves are individual,and as such are treated accordingly but when differences do occur does the distance play a large part in the way a Dom/Master interacts with their property, in how they are looked upon and treated? And indeed the time differences, smiling, it seems the US has many different time frames within its shores, does the time differences make that much of a difference in the everyday relationships ?

Is it the distance? Is it the belief that as one is further away they are less desirable? Is it the feeling that they are worlds apart and so mean less as a sub/slave than those closer, or indeed is it because they are at the moment online and not real that causes the differences? In this part of the internet, nearly all subs/slaves start their journeys with a Dom/Master as online and some never meet and others meet after 6 months to a year, and it is in that online time that you learn about the person you serve, or who is going to serve you .

Is there really that much difference between 200 miles and 500 miles or even 4000 miles and 2500 miles when all is said and done??


5 Responses to "Serving a Long Distance Master/Dom"

It must be very difficult for you when your master is a long distance from you. I find it hard that my sweetheart is often on the otherside of the world.

it is hard and kitten will not lie to you, its proberbly one of the hardest things kitten has ever done but she talks to Him daily and she knows that she will be with Him soon so that makes it more bearable, we have no control over who we fall for and who we want to submit to, its something that you instantly feel is right, its that rightness that keeps you going
kitten thanks your kind words

There could be a few reasons for the differences, Kitten:

One, the sub in question could be new, and is being tested. Perhaps for loyalty, perhaps for limits, for any reason.

Second, different subs have different levels of ‘aquaintince’ with the Dom. He will certainly know one better than another, and treat them accordingly. I would know how to play with my gf of 4 years better than I would know how to push your buttons, for instance. I’d be more fine tuned with her, and fumbling a little with you right off.

Third, every sub is different, and has different needs and fears and desires. A good Dom will know those differences and use them to everyone’s advantage. Perhaps one sub really gets off on orgasm denial, where you don’t. If you are treated the same, one of you will be unhappy.

As for the LD thing, I also have a LD subbie that I have yet to meet in RL. It is always hard not having her here with me, but you can only do what you can do. An online subbie is better than no subbie at all. I hope to meet her someday, or use the things I learned with her, and apply them to a local situation.

kitten agrees that each is different but as long as the Dom or Master treats each according the her needs and desires then any problems can be worked through, the thing about distance is that sometimes if a Dom or Master is poly they can forget that a sub/slave has needs as well, and if the relationship is one of TPE ( in the slaves case ) then that is not a good thing for her, they may talk and interact about everyday things but the other side of it is forgotten as it is not something He will be lacking in His lifestyle.

Another thing about distance is the time zones, and a Dom or Master should be aware that if He has a sub/slave that is on a different time to Him then surely the one to one time that He should spend with her is more important than spending one to one with another He owns who is on the same zone as He is, kitten is not saying one is more important just that the time means that He can have quality time with another after He has spent time with the one in a different zone, ( kitten knows what she means )

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